What if the reason grief feels so difficult isn’t simply because of the loss, but because we’re trying so hard to leave it behind? I’ve often wondered whether our struggle is less with grief itself and more with our expectations about how we should grieve and for how long? A butterfly necklace lay in a trinket dish Grief, like other life experiences, can come with its own set of perceived rules and expectations. Messages about grief can sometimes leave us with the impression

Have you ever found yourself believing that who you are right now is not enough? That your appearance could be better. Your job could be better. Your bank balance could be better. Measuring yourself against others and feeling like you come up short. Sometimes we come to associate worthiness with having more or becoming more. Believing that the more we have – more status, more wealth, more success, more admiration – the more worthy we are. A ladder whose top cannot be se

Have you ever found yourself going round and round in your mind, weighing every option, seeking reassurance, trying to figure out your next steps, make a decision or find a solution to a problem? A woman sat writing in her notebook In our efforts to make the ‘right’ choice or do the ‘right’ thing, we can analyse, compare, and question ourselves, believing that if we just think hard enough, we’ll get it right. How many times have you said, “Let me think about it ”, “I just ne

How much time have you spent thinking about what you truly want from your life? What kind of person you want to be? How you want to be remembered? Growing up, many of us receive messages about what a successful life should look like. We can become so caught up moving from one task to the next, achieving one goal after another on a never-ending treadmill of doing what we think is expected of us, that we never stop to question whether what we are working so hard towards is w